Married To Cosmetics? No way!

Singles usually consider physical attractiveness as a major source of love units. If you have this orientation, an attractive person will not only get your attention, but may distract you from whatever underlying flaws a prospective suitor might have. Majority of married couples will agree that exquisiteness among other qualities may have first drawn them to their spouse.

Most people will agree that beauty is desirable as a natural concept, and majority seek the ability and develop the inclination to pursue it, for myriad reasons. Somehow, our amazing brains process this in different ways. We will ordinarily go for the most attractive; obviously, attractive means something is attracting something. If the attractiveness of your spouse is a not-negotiable criteria, loss of that attractiveness which is a possibility would make you feel very frustrated in marriage.

One can question how much of a role attraction should play when choosing a lifelong partner while it does play a role in marriage, it should be seen as flexible, with a spouse's inner beauty being a far more important and long-lasting asset. 
Ask a married man what he appreciates when he is hungry and his very beautiful wife serves the delicious dish, does he thankfully wolf the meal or he keeps staring at his wife's cute face?

You might also wonder why a man lucky enough to have a beautiful wife will continue to cheat with his less comely secretary. Though this is unjustifiable, however, it is a pointer to the fact that beauty in this case is not enough-a-force to preserve the marriage.
Segal, who serves as associate editor of the Christian website wrote "God gave us physical senses and desires for our good. But that's only one piece of what makes people attractive, and it is not the main piece — nowhere close. He pointed to examples of how physical attraction can be flexible, as seen in the elderly couple who still find each other attractive after decades together, not because they are actually physically attractive in a conventional sense, but because their love and appreciation for each other has grown over the years.

The natural instinct to show preference to the physically attractive does not only apply to marriage. Beauty, says philosopher Roger Scruton, "is never viewed with indifference’’ even employers show a marked preference for attractive people in making hiring decisions. 
The Newsweek magazine surveyed more than 200 corporate hiring managers and almost 1000 members of the public and confirmed that "from hiring to office politics to promotions, even, looking good is no longer something we can dismiss as frivolous or vain."
The mostly-male hiring officers also said (by 61 percent) that it would be advisable for a woman seeking a job to wear clothing to the interview that would show off her figure. No kidding. The managers even ranked physical attractiveness third on their list of criteria for hiring - above education.

A New York-based recruiter consulted by the magazine asserted that, in this job market: "It's better to be average and good looking than brilliant and unattractive." Women, it is argued, face an even more complicated equation than men. Attractive women have an advantage over less attractive women in hiring for low-level positions. But when it comes to high-level executive positions, attractive women face added questions about their qualifications.
The Newsweek article, written by Jessica Bennett argues that the current quest for physical attractiveness - perhaps even a current expectation among the young - is rooted in their generation's experience of reality TV and popular culture "that screams, again and again, that everything is a candidate for upgrade."

Despite the old adage not to ‘judge a book by its cover’, facial cues often guide first impressions and these first impressions actively influence our decisions. In many cases, humans subconsciously attribute positive characteristics, such as intelligence, honesty and other virtues to physically attractive people. The truth is that attractiveness is the mere delight of the eyes. In a sinful world, our eyes delight in many wrong things, and many of the most beautiful realities are, to the mere eyes, unattractive.
While physical attraction usually play a part in finding a spouse, it is mostly a criteria that confers the least worth on the marriage. While it does play a role in most prospective spouse decision, it should not be seen as indispensable, with a spouse's inner beauty being a far more important and long-lasting asset.

You might want to ask if a Christian man should pursue a Christian woman to whom he is physically attracted. I might say, 'No.' That is, if all you know or like about her is what you see, you should take things slowly and ensure that you know the personality, spirituality and emotions of a person, instead of just physical appearance.
Ask yourself; have I seen enough of his or her faith, spiritual strength and maturity, godliness to know if he or her beauty is real and durable, or superficial and fading?

Proverbs  31:30  Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.

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